Though what does it mean as you grow older and it happens?
For the people who find their soul mate as early as during high-school, I am not sure if they truly understand the difference in mentality that there is for those who suffer loss after loss or for that matter never are swept off their feet until much later.
Is this to say that only the more mature have a significant view? Hardly.
It is to say that suffering leads to stronger growth.
I feel that usually the case with older people is that by the time they do commit, or re-commit for that matter, there is a stronger sense of duty and resolve. The more a person suffers loneliness the more they are willing to be objective and also pursue a positive role in order to sustain the commitment on their end as well as maintain a healthy relationship for both ends.
I am no expert in marriage but what I have seen that works the best from observation and experience of relationships is that both sides must be willing to sacrifice in hopes that the other side is doing exactly the same. The terms don't need to be addressed in a universal sense, especially in regard to gender, though it is usually acceptable to say that there needs to be some kind of equal ground.
I am no expert in marriage but what I have seen that works the best from observation and experience of relationships is that both sides must be willing to sacrifice in hopes that the other side is doing exactly the same. The terms don't need to be addressed in a universal sense, especially in regard to gender, though it is usually acceptable to say that there needs to be some kind of equal ground.
I think it's quite obvious what selfish relationships end up doing to people.
Being in Love is too often characterized by selfish emotions and selfish expectations. What I don't understand is why people don't think their Love for each other can not evolve into something? They treat Love like some static effect of an emotional state that comes and leaves like the ocean tide. Well quite frankly I don't think that it doesn't but I also don't think it is that simple. By all respects of the people themselves I believe Love evolves alongside of the people who experience it. This is not to say that it literally becomes better with time versus it obtains more definition as well as has broader meaning.
Or do you dare say your grandparents , if married still, don't have a better idea?
So where does the time go when you are in Love?
Why is it that most people spend their lives seeking out happiness when they have obtained it within Love? Is the pursuit of entertainment part of their Love or is it just something they do because they have lost the ability to maintain the high they perceived when they first fell in Love?
I believe thinking that Love is something that requires an ongoing flame that can go out and re-sparked is a farce. I think the metaphor is a great one but I think there is a failure to address a true problem at hand which usually comes back to the mortality of our world and ultimately of ourselves. I think most people mistake falling in Love with lust. It is easy to fall in Love with someone who excites our hormones and causes us to feel like the things in this world are much more acceptable because of presence. However, I think it is foolish to take away the deeper part of Love, which is sacrifice, by attributing it to monetary gain--even if that gain is as natural as childbearing and companionship.
The challenge of time is losing it yet still somehow efficiently using what we do have. For many people, that means loosing it much earlier than anticipated. Unfortunately for the entire race, we never truly reach a full state of maturity. To think otherwise is absolutely ludicrous since we only have suggestions from our eldest that even into death they know they could learn more.
Perhaps if we spent all our time trying to give what we have, suddenly time isn't an issue. Instead it is what goes on next is the issue.. And thus, the importance of defining a soul mate beyond the physical realm becomes a matter of the truest enlightenment. Then again, some people are so dependent on physical definitions that they never truly do become enlightened to anything.
Why is it that most people spend their lives seeking out happiness when they have obtained it within Love? Is the pursuit of entertainment part of their Love or is it just something they do because they have lost the ability to maintain the high they perceived when they first fell in Love?
I believe thinking that Love is something that requires an ongoing flame that can go out and re-sparked is a farce. I think the metaphor is a great one but I think there is a failure to address a true problem at hand which usually comes back to the mortality of our world and ultimately of ourselves. I think most people mistake falling in Love with lust. It is easy to fall in Love with someone who excites our hormones and causes us to feel like the things in this world are much more acceptable because of presence. However, I think it is foolish to take away the deeper part of Love, which is sacrifice, by attributing it to monetary gain--even if that gain is as natural as childbearing and companionship.
The challenge of time is losing it yet still somehow efficiently using what we do have. For many people, that means loosing it much earlier than anticipated. Unfortunately for the entire race, we never truly reach a full state of maturity. To think otherwise is absolutely ludicrous since we only have suggestions from our eldest that even into death they know they could learn more.
Perhaps if we spent all our time trying to give what we have, suddenly time isn't an issue. Instead it is what goes on next is the issue.. And thus, the importance of defining a soul mate beyond the physical realm becomes a matter of the truest enlightenment. Then again, some people are so dependent on physical definitions that they never truly do become enlightened to anything.
I know I don't want death to be the end, even if marriage isn't still a definition..
