Don't be Kissing a Fool, Don't be Fooled by a Kiss

I'm not sure where the fairy tale notion of a kiss being the most magical thing came into modern day truisms, but there's more awful ideas in this world than you can shake a stick at. Especially considering how many cultural lines the modern day layman has to cross to understand if something is fantasy fun or supposed to carry real-world meaning behind. Just like the idea that being a patriotic citizen is a proper way of life, instead of just an ideology that can be expressed in different ways in the same country.

It felt so good.. I never thought I'd know Heaven in this life!

Oh please.. I am a firm believer that the power of Love shows it's true form in the most unexpected places, during the most needed times. It has something to do with how someone offers you a helping hand when you think everyone kicked you to the ground. Or how you are forgiven for something you thought would end a relationship. Or someone gives you a compliment about your style when everyone else rolled their eyes. 

I'm not saying that Love can't be experienced when negative emotions get the best of us, I am simply saying that it is unreasonable to think that anyone can be so sure about the depth of the expression of affection only during moments of positivity. However, far be it from my intentions to ever suggest it can't be an indicator. 

But they are the one! I can feel it..

Obviously. Whenever someone tells me something like that, I get excited for them unless the two people just met or there is no expression of disagreement on anything. In fact, I think the worse examples are people who believe such things based solely on some shared interest. Granted, sharing interests and Love and first sight are not whimsical examples that are guaranteed to lead to breakups.. However, it would seem to make the most sense to give it some time to test the waters with just the toes instead of diving in head first and getting acquainted with whatever predator is under the surface. In fact, it seems unreasonable to not question why there is such a strong emotional knot in the stomach while logic is tossed out the window. 

You don't understand how they make me feel, it's magical.

I don't believe in magic, especially in a young girl's heart. That's why young girls grow up and find out that Prince Charming wanted to find his Queen, not a princess that can't handle the toils of life. This is why I believe in things like Pain, Suffering, and Sacrifice. It isn't a macabre outlook on romance, it's accepting the realities of life in a very realistic way. Realism never kept a relationship from reaching it's full potential, it keeps individuals from being immature and repeating mistakes as much as helping people to realize what their lover may go through to make them feel the reality of their affection. 

Funny how all that works, isn't it?

Pain isn't the thing that defines Love. Suffering isn't the thing that defines Love. 

Patience, Kindness, Enduring, Hopefulness.. These are points that define Love. 

It seems really hard to find these things in a short-term relationship realistically, I think. 

It was meant to be, nothing can stop us!

Times change.. Sometimes for the better, but not usually. That's why the majority of people who have lived, like the superstition of good luck. I guess if you flirt with Lady Luck enough, she'll give you something that redefines life. Then again, someone might get jealous and steal everything you have, including your life. Which is one reason why I feel it is more important to tell anyone and everyone to be thankful for every good thing that happens, not because it may be their last, but because things weren't always good. 

Take a look at the Rich vs Poor. How about the Ugly vs Beautiful. Is there a need for more starkly contrasting examples to make a well observed fact known? We should all know how quickly the roles can be reversed realistically let alone by perception. 

I can handle this, the good and the bad!

I wont say no, even when it does seem like everything is failing. Especially sanity. After all, what may seem like is the end of the world one moment, turns out to be just a phase in life the next moment. Some people just have a tendency to wear their emotions on their sleeve, so it seems they may get too caught up in any sense of the idea. So that also means some people may have their heads in the clouds, but their feet are firmly planted on the ground. 

In the end, the importance of advice is to be understanding of who you are giving it to. 

I may refuse to admire the fairy tale ending, but I don't think it's impossible. Conversely, I do believe that good things can come from a horrible situation. It may take time, but there's no sense in scaring people away from a very natural thing such as Love. Just remember kids, there is a difference between true love and Infatuation.

The God of Me

I find myself caught in a hard place when dealing with social issues. It isn't hard because I don't know what to think and it isn't hard because I don't know what to say. What's hard is breaking out the truth to people without becoming the same thing I'm admonishing someone for. It is beyond being a hypocrite, the problem becomes akin to intellectual dysfunction.

One of the quickest ways that this frustrating issues happens is when talking to Americans about America, such as what should be done politically. Everyone, who is smart enough to see through to this, knows that politics is nothing but opinions. The problem isn't that most people want their opinion to be realized as etiquette or policy, it is that so many people lose themselves in the fray of entitlement. Most common is how people make themselves out to be the center of the universe.
My personal experience is the racial issue in America. I suppose it is my fate because I am of mixed ethnicity; I am mulatto. For those who don't like that term, I say get over it. There's not much weight to the indignation behind it, especially since it is not recognized by any expert to be derogatory historically. However, that isn't my point.

I find it very ironic that most of the time that people talk about what they deserve or what they want in life, it comes down to a selfish approach. How it is that people become the center of the universe I will never understand from personal experience. Maybe it is because I have always felt like I am on the edge of the universe just like I feel like I'm on the edge of sanity a majority of the time?
I feel that I should be careful to point out that I see nothing wrong with people feeling like they have importance because I think that each individual is born with unalienable rights regardless of what kind of tyrant they become or what kind of atrocities they commit against others. That doesn't mean I throw justice out the window, it only means that I believe in the power of change; for better or for worse.

Let's be practical here..
We Humans are literally stuck in a tiny area of the Universe and despite the enormity of this ball we live on it is only our perception that gives rise to the enormity of Earth itself. In all respect of everything else surrounding Earth, we're nothing more than a tiny fragment in the cold silence of existence. If anything, we should be grateful to be stuck here together with something to do, let alone the ability to experience any kind of happiness in our meek existence. What that means to each individual is a matter of perception, not a universal truth. The most important thing to the human experience is not being alone, even if it is as simple as having something beneath our feet.
How does an individual justify their existence in light of the terrible truth that their existence is meaningless without someone to witness, benefit, or even suffer from their actions? How do you reconcile the truth that the human experience is polarized and sometimes completely slanted towards one side of the spectrum of positive or negative experiences? I don't try to justify or reconcile these things in my head anymore, I've gone beyond explaining it because I've stepped into the realm of creating an atmosphere around myself with the purpose of subjecting others to what I want for myself. I don't determine this atmosphere around me based on what I experience from others, I determine it based on what I have learned from my experiences.

I laugh at the notion that we can create whatever reality we wish. This laughter comes because I know that there are certain things you can not do, no matter how many people you unify under the same cause. Regardless of certain constants, like the cosmological constants of physics, I do believe that the power of the human mind includes not being subjected to every truth of reality. The truths could be what others have determined or it could be things created by non-human creatures or inanimate objects. I see it every day, people acting like they know things that have been proven to be untrue or people refusing to get away from superstition. Conversely there are people who only stick to empirical evidence and toss out any notion that hasn't been fully explained or theorized regardless of how many times something happens that can't be explained (like human consciousness or unexplained natural phenomenon).
The bias of most people is not as astounding as the result of the bias. It is the disagreement among people that baffles me, as that's when the self-perceived position in the universe becomes obvious. Which reminds me of why so many people think it is as important to be open minded as much as honest about what is factual. There seems to be a contradiction between the two since most people disregard truth to be open minded or there is a total disregard for possibilities because of known truths; as if all the variances in between didn't make all matters of life utterly difficult already.

At the end of the day the conclusion is always the same for me.
What have we humans become that we have forgotten our most powerful attribute that separates us from all the other creatures on this planet?
I don't know why I have to say it at all, but there are so many sheep treading the Earth that are only about the primal urges. Yet there is one ability that lends a hand to higher thinking even though it doesn't require intellectual processing or biological superiority to practice. To some degree I don't feel like pointing it out, because it is something that matters before any individual is conceived and matters beyond biological death.
Since I'm being highly intuitive, I am going to refrain from pointing it out because I'm not piecing together a puzzle. However, I think it is important to recognize the ultimate polarization of the universe.
The equation of the self or the equation of unity.

If science can show that the Universe, in every way imaginable, has a harmonized operation to give rise to something as "grand" as life then only a fool intellectualizes that they are the center of the universe.
There is no such thing.

Live and let Love

What's that? You say that the proper term to the idiom is, "Live and let Live"?

Well of course that's a modern idiom that is well known.

I'm not trying to regurgitate idioms and get everyone all excited about common sense notions though..

However, it is ironic to me that there's a heavy trend in effect on Facebook and Tumblr. They are filled with those ridiculous picture quotes that usually have no connection from the picture to the quote. Even though everyone finds the time to share them as if they are an expression of their own creativity, I find the quotes repeated with an endless amount of pictures. 

You can call my response to those things a bit of angst, only because I have done sets of something similar. Though I put a heavy emphasis to the pictures depicting exactly what the quote says, which are my own words, then I back it up with Biblical scripture (which was to suggest that the ideology itself is ancient and solid and worth looking through). 

Anyways, I am taking a well known idiom and amending it because I feel there's something more important. I would say that it is better than the original, but I'm not going to suggest it because some people may disagree with me for very understandable reasons. 

Who hasn't heard someone say that the world would be a better place if we all learned to love each other and our world better? It may seem like a silly notion in some ways, but I think it is true. It's ironic that it hasn't been put to the test as a whole, even though so many people refuse to give up their endeavor to teach the ideology. Lately I am seeing an increase of people taking the stance that the idea of change needs to come from the inside to affect the outside world. I totally agree with the logic that the world can only be manipulated by external acts whereas changing your individual character traits will bring about long-term change. Change that is seen through generations and maybe even cross cultural boundaries. A good example is the effect certain individuals have had on history, in good ways and in bad ways. 

It is in the interest of being realistic for me to emphasize that letting people live doesn't necessarily mean that you're letting them live a healthy, fulfilling, and maturing life. In fact, you can let someone live yet still enslave, oppress, tyrannize, and emotionally abuse people. You can do it without it being obvious and you can do it without society objecting to your methods. In fact, you can do it under the guise of moral righteousness and supposed gender appropriate, naturally ordered coherency. 

However, we all can agree that what you do doesn't mean what you are doing is the best thing for an individual or the best thing for human development as a whole.

It is really simple to articulate this. All you have to do is compare parenting behaviors of any kind. You can go to the extremes to illustrate the point, but going to extremes doesn't define what is in between. 

Isn't the greatest challenge of parenting within dealing with the unique personality traits and learned behaviors of the child? Some may say it is just a matter of shielding the child from undesirable influences while others may say it is a matter of connecting with the child intimately. I haven't seen any single method that stands out more than a sincerely loving parent.. Just as I have yet to find the 'perfect' parents. 

Moreover, the use of parenting 'standards' is only a way to illustrate my point, it isn't my point in itself. 

What I find peculiar, troubling, and even mysterious is how much human society throughout history has tried to dictate what is proper for humans. In the modern world, we see disagreement of how families should look, how governments should function, how people should be disciplined, and how every little actions should be conducted. It is no secret that there are people who are paid to decide, as some figurehead that has authority, what can and can't be done. To go against the understood standard is to risk social suicide or worse. 

I am not exactly a humble person by any respect of the word. I feel that my greatest trial in life is to humble myself and because it is so important it affects most of what I do. Some people disagree with me about my self-proclaimed assessment of what I lack, however I have seen through my own crap to know that there is a disconcerting similarity of my behavior to my perceived troubles. Moreover, it is the love of people that has helped me work this 'kink' out of my system.... And I still have a long way to go still. 

I have personally come to understand the importance of loving people, regardless of how well I am connected to them. I don't prioritize in any way, even though the types of love I bring are extremely different because of what is not appropriate in some situations. Which if that seems contradictory, I'll just say that I can't treat everyone with romantic love and it not have implications, even though I can treat the one I show romantic love to with the same base-line respect that I will to a stranger or my own family. 

In the end.. 

I see it completely legitimate to surrender my pride of judgment to the conviction of compassion. 

Though I may not agree with what I hear or what I see, I also don't make an excuse to withhold what really matters. So please, try it out. 

Live and let Love.