There are two types of Jealousy that I am aware of.
If there are any more... It's likely they still fall into the broad categories of the two main ones I'm going to talk about.
The first one is Reactive and the second one is Suspicion.
Of the two... The former is reasonable and expected. Furthermore, it doesn't hinder the capacity for self control. This is not to say that it facilities good behavior, as that isn't always true. Though it is to suggest that anyone is better off realizing that jealousy of itself isn't the culprit of negativity in this scenario.
However, with the latter version... The nature of jealousy becomes detrimental if not a hint to bigger problems.
The problem with suspicion, as most any logical person realizes or knows instinctually, many things are assumed and lots of actions are enacted that are based on a misconception of reality.
Almost always... It's a fear of loss for any kind of jealousy. The reactive kind it is a matter of material facts; not a matter of convictions and conjecture alone.
I can say that when jealousy is present, it's hard to be yourself. Or rather... That person that your lover is tuned with. Instead, you let the ugly green monster out to play and it usually bites heads off.
I have discovered that the nature of jealousy can be very subtle in it's mannerisms but almost always ends up ruining the relationship if it is a constant. Yet the best solution is to be able to recognize the patterns in your lover so that if anything... You can adjust to a situation to minimize the effects. After all... Why are you trying to exacerbate the situation?
