Who hasn't been in the position of worrying about the thoughts, actions and intent of someone?
You could be in the position as the parent, the friend, distant family, sibling our the lover. Yet the differences between those is not the level if your concern but rather what the goal is in the relationship.
I have to admit that my passion for intimacy with all people is so deep that it drives me to the brink of my sanity.
Though I prefer not to be about a selfish desire of what I get out of it, I know that my emotions won't allow me to pretend otherwise. So it comes naturally for me to be angered our at least saddened when I feel betrayed our otherwise misused.
Often we hear about broken hearts as well as abusive intentions. We all seem to know the answer as it comes forward.. Yet putting the knowledge to practical use is very hard. It is without a doubt that there is a coaching process involved.
I have come to terms that it is very hard to have a comprehensive system within your emotions to do something that requires logic.. Though you can practice at it so that you have a better chance of making a better judgement call or reacting calmly, it is no surprise that the major pit-fall exists as a psychological deterrent.
Usually the younger you are the more important your feelings are just as the more you are susceptible to being hurt long term.
So what is thee answer to being able to become stoic just as much as sensitive to empathy?
Though I don't think the answer is simple I do think that we can find peace in the attempt to be honest about our feelings while being true to our attempts of finding Love.
First you have to let go of your feelings, abandon the idea that they matter so that you can clearly discern if you are wasting your time trying to pursue someone.
Second you have to analyze what got you into the position that you are in so you know how to keep it from happening just as much as keep yourself from listening to someone who is leading you down that same road with a different tune.
Thirdly you should find people or something that can keep you occupied yet not distracted so that you can allow time to heal your wounds.
In this order you stand a chance against yourself, as the details between these things are intense as subjectivity can possibly be.
